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I was very tempted to skip a post this week because most of
my thoughts regarding this internship are political in nature and thus
off-limits. Plus, I’m already keeping track in a journal. (I’m horrible at
consistent journal writing, so the internship requiring me to keep a journal
helps.) However, I said that I was going to post every week, so I feel
obligated to.
One apolitical part of my intern experience is taking public
transportation. I’ve taken it before, but always as a novelty, never as a
serious means of getting from place to place. It’s a relaxing, fascinating, and
melancholy experience.
I love the relaxation of having someone else drive me
around. I’ve never been a big fan of driving, and I’ve had a job over the past
few years that feels like it requires a lot of driving, so I’ve been enjoying
driving less. I woke up late one morning this past week and had to drive to the Capitol, and that was pretty
much the worst thing ever. The trip was way too long and way too stressful. It’s funny because Americans keep lengthening commutes,
but my goal is to have a-less-than-20-minute commute when I have a grown-up
job.
The concept of public transportation is fascinating to me.
You take a bunch of people and stuff them into a confined space and hope for
the best. Some people talk with their friends, a few people even strike up
conversations with strangers, but for the most part, everyone’s on their phone
or computer, listening to music through headphones, reading a book, or
sleeping. Not that I’m judging negatively: in the morning, I’m glued to my
phone catching up on the news, and in the evening, I’m typing into a journal
before just relaxing. After a hard day at work, just about the last thing I want
to do is converse with a stranger.
Riding on a train, I can’t help but think of old books and
movies that feature train rides. In those, everyone starts out as strangers,
but before too long, everyone has gotten to know each other, besides a few
recluses. I can’t help but wish that that would happen on these modern train
rides. Of course, they are different circumstances. In old books and movies,
the train trips cover many days; in my experience, the train trip is about an
hour and a half. It’s not as much time to get to know anyone.
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I’ve got a theory that the degree to which humans get to
know each other depends on how often they expect to see each other. If you see
someone on the train, bus, street, coffee shop, or grocery store, you figure
you’re not likely to see them again, so there’s no point acknowledging them. If
you’re meeting in-laws, classmates, or coworkers, you’re going to be seeing
them a lot, so you better get to know them. If you’re on a days-long train
ride, you’ll talk to your fellow passengers, but not on an hour-long ride. Similarly,
in a city, the odds of you running into someone again out of thousands or
millions of people is remote, whereas in a small town, you’re going to run into
that person numerous times, so you get to know them. I believe this is why
cities are so lonely and small towns are so friendly and gossipy.
I have a really hard time wanting to get to know people
because I figure they’ll be out of my life before too long. That’s a horrible
attitude, I know: the way to keep people in your life is to let them in first.
It doesn’t help that I have social anxiety and am unsure how to behave in many
situations. I guess I just get sad when people who matter to me fade out of my
life, and it’s hard to let more in after others have gone out.
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P.S. The abandoned bus pictures have nothing to do with anything, but I found them looking for public transportation pictures, and I have a new-found love for wrecked bus photos.
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